Community guidelines

Collr is for the kink and fetish scene — leather, rubber, pups, handlers, bears, riggers, furries and everyone who turns up to the same nights. It exists to make those nights findable and to give people a page they can hand out. That is the whole job.

These are the rules of the room. Most of them are the ones any decent event already runs on: consent is not optional, nobody is outed, and what somebody does elsewhere is their business. The rest are the things a website has to be clear about, and they are written plainly rather than buried. By using Collr you agree to follow them, alongside our Terms of Service.

The following types of content are not allowed on Collr:

• Illegal content — content that violates applicable laws in your jurisdiction.
• Child sexual abuse material (CSAM) — any content depicting or sexualising minors will result in immediate account termination and a report to the relevant authorities (NCMEC/IWF).
• Harassment and doxing — targeting individuals with threats, abuse, or publishing private personal information without consent.
• Impersonation — pretending to be someone else in a way that is likely to mislead.
• Spam and scam links — posting misleading, deceptive, or commercially spammy content.
• Malware and phishing — links designed to distribute malware or steal credentials.
• Copyright infringement — sharing content you don’t have the rights to.

Kink and fetish content is welcome on Collr, subject to the rules in Kink and fetish content below.

Collr is built for the whole kink community, and consensual adult kink content — leather, pup and handler, rubber, age-regression and littles, ABDL, and other fetish and identity practices — is welcome here. The same rules apply across all kink categories. No category is singled out for extra suspicion, and none is exempt.

• Adults only. Everyone depicted must be, and must appear to be, an adult. Content where a participant could reasonably be mistaken for a minor is removed, whatever the stated age, category or context. This applies across the whole site, including but not limited to age-regression, littles and ABDL content.
• Consent. Content must not depict or promote non-consensual acts as real. Fantasy scenes between consenting adults are treated case by case, and the framing has to be clear from the page itself — a caption or a bio that says what it is. Anything that reads as an account of actual non-consensual activity is removed, and may be referred to the authorities.
• No real animals. Content depicting sexual acts involving real animals is prohibited outright. Pup play, pet play and similar human roleplay are permitted: they involve consenting adults only.
• No coercion or entrapment. Anything that pressures, blackmails or manipulates somebody into kink activity they have not consented to is treated as harassment under Prohibited content.
• Safety information is not prohibited. Writing about risk-aware practice, aftercare, negotiation and safety — impact play, breath play, bondage and the rest — is allowed and encouraged, including where it discusses risk candidly.
• No child-coded framing. No content may combine kink or fetish themes with school uniforms, school settings or other explicitly child-coded imagery, or use real parent and child relationship language in a sexual context — as distinct from established kink terminology used within a given community. No caption, bio or profile may be read as recruiting, targeting or normalising interest in actual minors.
• Explicit material is not hosted here. Where sexual content may live, and what Collr will not store, is set out in Adult content below.

A note on age-regression and littles in particular: many people treat this as a non-sexual headspace or a comfort practice rather than a sexual kink. Where a member frames it that way on their page, sexualised content posted against that framing is treated as a policy violation like any other misuse of a tag, and is handled under Enforcement.

Collr is a kink community and most of what is listed here is for adults. That is not the same as being explicit, and the distinction matters both ways round.

Gear is not nudity. Leather, rubber, pup hoods, harnesses, jocks and the rest of it are what this site is about. Photographs of yourself in gear are welcome, and nobody should feel they have to hide them.

Explicit images and video may not be uploaded to Collr. That means nudity and sexual acts, anywhere they would be stored here — your profile picture, your photos and videos, an event banner or logo. Collr does not host that material.

If explicit work is part of what you do, link to it instead. A link on your page pointing at the platform that hosts it is fine, and that platform is the one responsible for checking the age of whoever follows it. If your page or your bio describes explicit activity, turn on the content warning in Settings, under Privacy, so people know before they arrive.

Events are different again. An event may say plainly what happens at it, including sex on the premises, because somebody deciding whether to go needs to know. An event marked explicit is kept out of search engines and out of every feed Collr publishes, and is shown only to signed-in members; it is not hidden from the community.

Why pictures and events are treated differently. A photo or video made to turn people on is pornography, and UK law (the Online Safety Act) says any site that shows it must check the age of everyone who looks, with a real check rather than a tick box. That would mean Collr holding ID for everybody here, which we would rather not do on a kink site. So Collr doesn’t host that material at all, and points to the places that do those checks.

An event listing is a different thing. It tells you where and when something is on and what happens there, so you can decide whether to go: it is information, not pornography. That is why an explicit event can be listed here, and why it is kept to signed-in members and out of search engines rather than turned away. Keeping it out of search is also what keeps every other event on Collr findable.

If you encounter content that violates these guidelines, you can report it using the report button on any profile, link, photo or event. Reports are reviewed by our moderation team.

That includes what happens at an event. Verified organisers are held to these guidelines and partners to our partnership terms as well, because Collr has vouched for them, so misconduct at one of their events is something we especially want to hear about.

• Standard reports: reviewed within 48 hours.
• Reports of CSAM, and any report saying that content could be mistaken for a minor in any category: reviewed within 24 hours.

Reports are confidential — the reported user will not be told who reported them.

When we find content that violates these guidelines, we may:

• Remove the offending content.
• Issue a warning.
• Temporarily suspend the account.
• Permanently ban the account for serious or repeated violations.
• Report illegal content to the relevant authorities.

The severity of the action depends on the nature of the violation and any previous history. CSAM and content promoting violence against individuals or groups will result in immediate permanent ban and reporting to authorities. Where a case is ambiguous, moderators err towards removal, across every category, rather than seeking further context first.

If you believe your content was removed or your account was actioned in error, you can contact us to appeal the decision. We will review your appeal and respond within 7 days.